Normally I'm a fan and share Upworthy links on my facebook page or business pages, but I'm actually disappointed with Upworthy for posting this. (Warning: explicit, not for children.)
Ladies - if you want to be a real feminist then start comparing apples to apples. When you ask for nudity below the belt from a man in exchange for the exposed topless women of countless shows, movies, and ads, you're essentially communicating that breasts are indeed sexual organs and on the same playing field as a penis. Guess, what. You're wrong, and THAT is the hard truth.
If there was a sudden influx of vaginas on screen, then I would wholeheartedly agree and exclaim, "Where are the penises for us women to enjoy?" Fortunately, some of our media has a shred of censorship left. And by shred, I mean a shhhred.
Meanwhile... other feminists are loudly vocal about the travesty of breasts being seen as sex objects, under the ownership of their lover, and not as the breastfeeding machines that they are. If we want to talk about double standards, then perhaps some of you "feminists" need to look inward and attend to your own hypocrisy first before bitch-slapping other hypocrites (pay attention to #14 in that video). We're all hypocrites sometimes, myself included, it happens. But don't expect to get change to happen in the way you want by promoting garbage like that College Humor video.
The change I want to see and want to work for is one of mutual respect. Feminism started as a movement for respect and yet, a small, loud-mouthed percentage of movers and shakers put this to practice by disrespecting men. We don't need to bring one sex down just to bring the other up. Those of you who don't appreciate having your vagina called other names, probably shouldn't resort to using terms like "dongs" or "schlongs" to refer to male genitalia. Those of you who hate having to try and read your guy's mind and wish he would just voice his opinion, shouldn't turn around and wonder why he didn't pick up on your "subtle" clues. Those of you who expect him to pick up the tab on every date or scrape your car off on a cold winter morning shouldn't be flabbergasted when he expects you to do the dishes. Is the double standard becoming more apparent to you? I see it everyday and it's sickening.
I'm not trying to rip down women, I'm simply trying to open your eyes to the reality of the feminist war we've been fighting. A lot of men have lost their "role" as a man and struggle to discover or reinvent an identity. They walk on eggshells with women, trying to respect her as a capable, 21st century member of the workforce while simultaneously trying to be a gentleman. Holding a door open for her could equally get a "Why, thank you, that's so sweet of you" or a "You old-fashioned jerk! I can hold open my own damn door, I'm a woman!" Both men and women are struggling immensely with navigating roles and identities, so let's show each other a little more compassion and respect.
Let's start by first respecting ourselves, our own bodies, and our own nudity, and then respond to the media with mutual respect for men's nudity, not an outcry for more of it. Degrading men will not help women achieve less degradation. When you give respect, you're more likely to earn it back.
