My last post was about never being too busy to live life, and then I went and missed nearly 7 weeks of writing... It wasn't for lack of things to write about. Those of you who know me know how passionate and overworked I get about a number of things. Not to mention that there is no shortage of women empowerment related material in the everyday news for which I could ramble about. I just got, well, a little busy. ;)
Today, I was struck by an article that has exploded on the internet, news channels, and has Angelina Jolie trending on Twitter. Many of you, I'm sure, are aware of her double mastectomy by now. Her article "My Medical Choice" appeared in the opinions section of the New York Times. In it, she discusses her difficult decision to help ensure she will be around for her six children and husband, Brad Pitt.
Near the end of the article, she hints at a deeper concern many women feel when faced with the decision of altering their body. She writes, "On a personal note, I do not feel any less of a woman. I feel empowered that I made a strong choice that in no way diminishes my femininity."
For decades, the public has been sexualizing women. Young ladies grow up believing that being feminine means showing off some cleavage, swinging their hips, and pouting their lips. Likewise, many breastfeeding advocates and natural childbirth activists argue the distinctly feminine role we have is birthing children and being able to feed them from our bodies. Without intending to, I'm sure, several women have felt reduced to their body parts on both sides of the spectrum. We cannot deny that our bodies are different from men. We cannot deny that our ability to birth children and breastfeed is uniquely the woman's role.
There is something deeper than our physical bodies here... I am continually wrapped up in unraveling the mystery of femininity. I'm reminded of my sister's sculptures, many of which are naked women, and the responses she gets from friends and family members: "Why naked women?" She explores that mystery through vulnerable art forms, void of covering, exposed. I am reminded of many authors like Betty Friedan who try again and again to express in words what femininity is about. I am reminded of saints like Mother Theresa whose actions implore us to see the mystery in everyday life. I am reminded that femininity may always remain a mystery, but also, that it is a complex patchwork of so many different threads.
What makes YOU feminine?
Showing posts with label women's sexual health. Show all posts
Showing posts with label women's sexual health. Show all posts
Tuesday, May 14, 2013
Friday, September 7, 2012
I choose not to accept it
If you've been online, watched television, or listened to the radio in the past month, you've probably heard about the rape discussions by politicians, the infidelity of Kristen Stewart, the breastfeeding photo on Time Magazine's cover, and the healthcare reform debates over women's reproductive choices. What do these issues all have in common? Women's sexual health.
From a recent article on Huffingtonpost.com regarding Kristen and Robert's split, I want to echo this: "For any girl growing up who pays attention to the media, it's a terrifying time to understand what it means to be a girl in society." Terrifying.
The article is written by a man, Nico Lang, and paraphrases quotes from famous male personas in the media who have all contributed their two cents regarding women's sexual health, and it got me wondering: Where are the women? The author dubs this year of filthy media as a "war on women" and I found myself asking how I was going to fight it, then asking... ARE women even going to fight? Are we going to DO anything about it? Why aren't we speaking up for ourselves? Many women in the public sphere are not doing much to lend momentum to the women's movement started decades ago. In fact, some of them are downright taking us backwards! We've got famous females like Rihanna returning to their abuser and conservative Sarah Palin running for political offices to represent us. Where are the culturally intelligent, well-respected, and confident women with integrity? Where are society's women that represent me, my sisters, my cousin who started her own law firm, my co-captain from college ultimate who has worked on carbon reducing projects, and so many other incredible women in my life?
We're working hard in the communities we live in. We're right here, and here, and here. We just need to stand up and represent ourselves. How?
By choosing to not care about the trivial relationship status of two young actors which will likely change several times as they explore their early 20's. By not embracing a culture of sexualizing women. By breastfeeding normally, and maybe even in public, so people understand that boobs serve a purpose and it's not a sexual one. By challenging the balance in media attention - when men are caught cheating or sleeping around, they're applauded, but women are bullied and harassed to the point where their careers may be over. (If you haven't read the article I mentioned above about Kristen Stewart, please do so.)
We can choose to raise our daughters with healthier perspectives. Rather than focusing on how cute, how pretty, our little girls are, we could focus on how good they are at writing or drawing or playing soccer. We can encourage our young women to treat others with respect, to treat themselves with respect, and to demand that others treat them with respect. We can encourage sexual health education so women understand their bodies and their choices. The biggest thing we can all do, I think, is to simply choose not to accept that this is the way our culture is.
From a recent article on Huffingtonpost.com regarding Kristen and Robert's split, I want to echo this: "For any girl growing up who pays attention to the media, it's a terrifying time to understand what it means to be a girl in society." Terrifying.
The article is written by a man, Nico Lang, and paraphrases quotes from famous male personas in the media who have all contributed their two cents regarding women's sexual health, and it got me wondering: Where are the women? The author dubs this year of filthy media as a "war on women" and I found myself asking how I was going to fight it, then asking... ARE women even going to fight? Are we going to DO anything about it? Why aren't we speaking up for ourselves? Many women in the public sphere are not doing much to lend momentum to the women's movement started decades ago. In fact, some of them are downright taking us backwards! We've got famous females like Rihanna returning to their abuser and conservative Sarah Palin running for political offices to represent us. Where are the culturally intelligent, well-respected, and confident women with integrity? Where are society's women that represent me, my sisters, my cousin who started her own law firm, my co-captain from college ultimate who has worked on carbon reducing projects, and so many other incredible women in my life?
We're working hard in the communities we live in. We're right here, and here, and here. We just need to stand up and represent ourselves. How?
By choosing to not care about the trivial relationship status of two young actors which will likely change several times as they explore their early 20's. By not embracing a culture of sexualizing women. By breastfeeding normally, and maybe even in public, so people understand that boobs serve a purpose and it's not a sexual one. By challenging the balance in media attention - when men are caught cheating or sleeping around, they're applauded, but women are bullied and harassed to the point where their careers may be over. (If you haven't read the article I mentioned above about Kristen Stewart, please do so.)
We can choose to raise our daughters with healthier perspectives. Rather than focusing on how cute, how pretty, our little girls are, we could focus on how good they are at writing or drawing or playing soccer. We can encourage our young women to treat others with respect, to treat themselves with respect, and to demand that others treat them with respect. We can encourage sexual health education so women understand their bodies and their choices. The biggest thing we can all do, I think, is to simply choose not to accept that this is the way our culture is.
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